How To Invest In Yourself (Without Being Selfish)
Let's face it. If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.
And isn't every woman a mama in one way or another? Cat mamas, friend mamas, fish mamas, I'm talking to YOU!
Here's how to take care of yourself without all that crippling self-judgement:
- Put yourself first. Before you even get out of bed, set your intention for the day. This can be a single word: patience. compassion. focus. Or, it can be a phrase. Today I will be positive.
- Set phone alarms for self care check-ins. You can set an alarm for taking your medicine, going to bed, remembering to breathe, taking a walk, doing stretches... you get the picture.
- Fuck the haters. Seriously. Toxic people will be very mad that they're no longer first in your life. But don't let the disapproval of others dissuade you from taking care of yourself. Don't worry, they'll find other victims to prey on.
- Realize your power. Relish in the freedom of having control over literally every aspect of your life. Your daily schedule, your meals, who you spend time with, what conversations you have, what TV you watch, what music you listen to. You are not beholden to anyone! If you feel like you aren't able to take control of your life because of your partner, you might be in an abusive relationship. Reach out to receive help.
- Don't apologize for needing alone time or saying no to social engagements. The more you apologize, the more people will think something's wrong, when really you have nothing to be sorry about!
- Communicate with your partner or loved ones your new intention and personal boundaries. For instance, once they know you're unavailable after 8pm, they won't get mad when you don't text back.
- You're not superwoman. I know. Believe, me, I know! I want to be the BEST. AT. EVERYTHING. ALL. THE. TIME. But guess what? Literally no one is. Lower your expectations. Don't let perfect be the enemy of finished. And don't be afraid to remove things from your to-do list that aren't urgent or important.